During my post-MI convalescence, my doctor told me to avoid unnecessary stresses that I cannot relieve. I thought I knew what she meant by that, but I asked anyway. Her explanation was that I needed to not let other people’s problems bother me, but that the total absence of stimulating stresses would make me very unhappy, and that kind of stress might be fatal.
I was reminded of something that one of the founders said — probably Adams, or maybe Franklin. The Constitution guarantees the right to pursue happiness. It doesn’t guarantee that you’ll catch it. So you may as well let the pursuit itself be the source of the happiness.
As for the stresses my grandchildren cause when they come here and stay too long, it’s like Twain or somebody said: Some people create happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.
I think I got it now. Don’t sit around on your butt and wait for somebody else to do things for you, get up and go get what you want, and if there’s somebody there that pisses you off, either chase them away or go somewhere else.
I watch people too. This is my rebuttal, such as it is. I know I’m probably coming across as a real asshole about it, but this just set me off.
1. I disagree. Some of the people I know who genuinely laugh a lot are also the most depressed and fragile.
2. Not always true
3. Can’t disagree with this, though the cycle is a positive self perpetuation. You get out more, so you appreciate it more and want to get out more, etc.
4. Non-energetic people care about animals just as deeply, and sometimes will take it so far that it endangers not only their own health, but the health of the animals they love. (sad truth: you can’t save them all, much as we wish we could).
5. We all like good food. Bad food can cause illness and other ailments which are uncomfortable.
6. This does not mean people who are unhappy are automatically of the “victim mentality” subset of society.
7. This can apply to any group but liberals.
8. Artists are an example of people who keep their minds active and such, but are generally not happy.
9. This is a myth. At least in my own personal experience. Physical activity does absolutely nothing for my emotional health, even when done daily for extended periods (half a year +)
10. Unhappy people often have the most interesting things to share, in my experience. Because they read or find something that sparks something inside them that they don’t get to feel that often, and they latch onto it like a dog on a bone and genuine excitement makes brief appearance. That excitement lasts longer when they share it with someone who also becomes excited.
Comment by Caged Insanity — February 25, 2013 @ 6:49 pm
The left will be vewy angwy wiff yew.
Comment by JoeBandMember™ — February 25, 2013 @ 7:23 pm
A big 10-4 to that Sondra. I only hang out with the Happy. And as the old saying goes you are who your hang out with.
Serenity is the watchword. I keep a hawk`s eyes on my own and that of my dearest friends and loved ones. By mastering serenity, I have learned how to keep a cone of interference about myself that is impervious to all but things of import and to dismiss the irresyphillis!
ColonelJ the happy warrior
Comment by Colonel Jerry USMC — February 25, 2013 @ 8:05 pm
If you’re really unhappy you can blame Bush.
Also, binders full of women.
Comment by Steve Skubinna — February 25, 2013 @ 8:20 pm
Depends on what you mean by “happy,” I reckon.
Comment by DougM (ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ) — February 25, 2013 @ 8:50 pm
I’m Tigger and I live with Eore. We’re like Jack Sprat and his wife.
Comment by geezerette — February 25, 2013 @ 9:20 pm
The upside of being a pessimist is that, when things go right, you’re pleasantly surprised.
Comment by Fat Baxter — February 25, 2013 @ 9:35 pm
And as the old saying goes you are who your hang out with.
Comment by LLoyd
My version is you become like those you spend the most time with.
So true IRL, but the porch helps fill a part of the prescription quite nicely.